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Growing with Criticism

Why Do So Many Managers Avoid Giving Praise? 

This was an interesting article. The managers they interviewed hated giving positive criticism or praise. They only wanted to do their job and make sure everything was right. I understand that. Every job I have had, I have sat in a limbo where I have not been told I am not doing anything terrible, but I don't know if its exceptional. Its so sad that people are scared to be nice because they don't to single someone out or make the relationship between manager and subordinate different. I hold an office on campus and after reading this, I will work hard to give praise because what we do is volunteer and I might as well boost people for doing something they don't even have to. I don't know if I have done this, because I have never consciously felt the fear some managers described, but I hope I have not. Praise makes everyone feel better, even you.

Five Reasons to Stop Saying "Good Job!

So, I didn't like this article. I know people worked hard to find this information, but it goes against what is taught in almost any psychology class. Also, it is so pessimistic of the world. We should tell good job for the little victories, so the giant failures do not seem as harsh. Also, not every parenting trick is going to screw a child up when they are a toddler. Is the later emotional development that really is make or break. Also, their citations are questionable. In academia, the University of Northern Iowa is not held in high esteem, and they only had one other citation. Thus, I'm going to continue saying good job to children when they learn something new in a scary world where they are trying new things they don't know how to do when they do them right. 

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A Simple 5-Second Habit to Rewire Your Harshly Self-Critical Brain

I love that I learned that the brain continues to develops when your an adult. But I did not like to see what stress does to my brain. It slowly changes the density of it. Stems cells can reverse the process (that's why stem cell research is so important). A way to make this happen is REBS, which is a way to congratulate yourself for your work. This will be really nice to use on long days when I have SO much to do.

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Why rejection hurts so much — and what to do about it

This article says that the greatest damage of rejection is self inflicted and we are wired to react that way. Scientists believe that we are this way because we had to be in groups to survive and being ostracized was certain death. This connection is fascinating. It is crazy how ways early humans lived effects our social structures. 

There are ways to help the emotional pain that rejection causes. Like having a zero tolerance policy for self-criticism. I could use this tip. I am by far my harshest and meanest critic.